Friday, February 27, 2015

Taking a Perfect Picture of Yourself: Tips from Cross Dresser, Heidi Phox


It's that time of the year again! Our annual Glamour Girl Contest is in full swing. For those of you who don't already know about our contest, here is a little background information- You can send in up to 3 photos of yourself en femme up until April. There are 3 age groups, Kittens, Cougars, and Super Cougars (see contest details for your group). There will be over $2000 worth of feminine prizes given out as well as the chance for a cash prize. Our judges particularly like great quality photos, preferably full length with clear lighting, and great quality. 

Our Glamour Girl Contest is not just about beauty, so we have asked a previous winner, Heidi Phox what tips she has for you ladies on how to win!


Let's see what tips Heidi has for you ... 

Glamour Boutique is largely responsible for “shaping” me into the girl I am today.  After winning the Glamour Girl contest a few years ago, the girdle and breast forms I obtained from them have taken me to the next level in my feminine presentation.

But winning the contest takes more than a nice figure or a pretty face. Presenting the image of the person inside you can be tricky. After years of dressing I’ve accrued some tricks to maximize the chances I’ll get some photos that express the femininity the way I feel it.

     1.  Look through women's magazines or online for a few poses to emulate.   

          Below are a few of my favorite poses.




    2. Be feminine but classy and stylish.

    3. High heels, nylons, skirts and dresses are a must.

    4. Set up a mirror behind the camera so you can see your pose.

    5. Use the flash on your camera so that your face is not lit from above.

    6. Angle your body and hands so that they are not square to the camera.

    7. Whenever possible point your toes.

8. Look directly at the camera and smile.

9. Take LOTS of photos adjusting your pose, facial expression, hair, etc. a little each time.





These photos are just to show you a variety of different poses and facial expressions. When taking your picture make sure there are no distractions in the background, unless of course it is intentional scenery.

Good luck and HAVE FUN!  I can’t wait to see the entries! -Heidi 

We hope that Heidi was able to give you some winning tips on how to take a great picture of yourself for the Glamour Girl Contest and your future photography endeavors. Taking a perfect picture is not easy, and will take a lot of practice. 

Enter Contest here

Thursday, February 19, 2015

Top 5 Blogs for Cross Dressers

There are so many useful blogs for cross dressers these days, whether it is photos, someone sharing their personal journey or a blog on make-up and fashion tips. Each one being a great outlet of information for cross dressers. Today we are going to share with you a few of GlamourBoutique.com's favorite blogs. We think these cross dressing blogs will have great value to you.  Each one has an interesting writing style, and shares some great advice and experiences that you may relate to. We hope you find one that suits you well.

1. Call Me Meg
http://youcancallmemeg.blogspot.com/


This blog is all about Meg, and her exciting journey as a cross dresser. She shares her personal experiences and thoughts on being a cross dresser as well as gender issues, gives tips on how she improves her voice, shares her daily outings, and much more. Meg has a fun and easy way about her which makes her blog so enjoyable to read.


2. Heidi Phox's Diary Page
http://www.heidiphox.com/blog.html


Heidi is a long time customer and friend of GlamourBoutique.com and is truly an inspirational and beautiful person inside and out. She shares her journey as a cross dresser, her funny stories of getting caught and the outings she takes. She also covers more serious topics like labels, perceptions, wives perspectives, make-up/dressing tips, and much more. If you have a question, Heidi has an answer.


3. Lucille Sorella's Femme Secrets
http://feminizationsecrets.com/about-lucille/



Lucille first discovered cross dressing when she was only 18 so has a ton of experience to share with her readers and does a great job illustrating her techniques. Her blog has so many helpful tips on make-up, dressing, posing, voice feminization, confidence, and anything having to do with transformation. Her posts are very helpful, especially for beginners and is very easy to follow.  


4. Diary of a Cross Dresser
http://www.lisagirl.net/crossdressing-blog-86.php



We really love Lisa's blog because it is so much fun to read, she makes you feel like you are right there with her.  She shares her adventures, successful shopping excursions while en femme, and takes some really great pictures of the outfits she wears on each outing. Lisa also gives a lot of background information on her cross dressing history which is very interesting.

5.  Well Dressed Cross Dressers and Transgender Women
http://hgillmore.tumblr.com/


This is a great blog for those who really enjoy looking at pictures of other cross dressers. All of these ladies are very stylish and really know how to make their make-up look professional and also know how to put an outfit together. I love this site because there is a variety of different styles so whether you are more conservative, classy, or risky, you can get some great tips by just looking through the photos.


Do you have a favorite blog that you would like us to share with our readers, or maybe a blog of your own that you think would be helpful to others? If so, please leave a comment below and we will be happy to add it to our list!


Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Married to a Cross Dresser- Q&A with Kim Rydick and Wife




Q&A with Kim Rydick

When did you first realize you were more comfortable in feminine clothing?                               

I don't remember the first time I thought about feminine clothing but I do remember having it around the house while I was a child. My mother is a creative person and a seamstress so I quite possibly picked up my love for fabrics and textures from her.

Dressing in women's clothes was a bit of an evolution for me. Lingerie in the bedroom was my first interest and I was well into my 30s before it felt comfortable enough to try it on.

What triggered this discovery?                   

My wife left me at home once a month during her regularly scheduled 'girl’s night out' with her friends. She enjoyed her time, drank a little wine and returned home after I had put our young daughters to bed. I would wait for her and we both knew we would have 'our time' together when she returned. Month after month, year after year, our event grew and I became bolder and more inventive with my 'preparation' in wait. It was probably about 3-4 years before lingerie became part of the interaction and I do remember feeling silly at first.

When did you start going out in public dressed en femme?              

Halloween 2011, I was fully dressed en femme for the first time. Starting weeks before, my wife and I had been picking out clothes and trying them on me at local thrift stores. The resulting outfit was very casual and kind of boring compared to my wardrobe now. In any case, I dressed and drove through a local fast food drive through while my wife and I giggled and commented throughout the event.

How often do you get to dress?

Lately, I dress once or twice a week as our oldest daughter has moved back home after graduating from college. Before that, I was dressing 4-5 times a week and free to come and go from our home.

 How long did you keep this to yourself and what made you want to tell your wife?                            

My wife knew from the moment I knew, or within a few hours anyway.

How did you approach telling your wife?           

Feminization for me was triggered by a blog entry authored by the wife of a married couple that we had been following online. The wife dressed her husband and took him to pump gas out of town. We read it, discussed it and I'm sure I couldn't stop mentioning it for some time.

 

What advice can you give to others that struggle with telling their significant others?

Start slow, carefully choosing what you will say or show her. Think carefully about what you say or do so hoping to entertain while enlighten. A giggle is the response you want, not shock. Show vulnerability and have compassion. Aggression is evil. Sympathy and respect are a must. She married a man and likely hasn't considered alternatives. Take time to decide a simple phrase or basic display. Give time to allow your partner to respond and if needed, ask that they take such time.

Chances are you have taken considerable time deciding what to say or do, give them the same to consider what you are sharing with them. Don't offer too much information, be very selective and hope that your spouse will want to know more. When the time comes for them to calmly ask questions, then they will be more likely to appreciate the honest answers. Take an approach that puts your spouse in control of labeling you as a cross dresser. Give her time to have you admit what you like about your secret. We are able accept conditions easier if we aren't forced to acknowledge they exist.

Q&A with Kim's wife, Alice:

What was your initial reaction to your husband’s news of wanting to cross dress?

Initially, my husband wore lingerie in the bedroom. He liked the sensual feel of the fabric and the kinkiness of wearing women's clothing. I didn't mind since it made our personal time more exciting for him, and therefore me as well.

How long did it take you to become accustomed to this new lifestyle?

Gradually he wore more female clothing more often. Since this took place gradually the adjustment was gradual as well. 

What has helped you become so accepting of Kim?

We have been married many years and we have both evolved as people and our marriage has evolved as well.  I love my husband and accept him as he is, even when he is Kim. I believe that she is part of him. He is accepting of me, as I am, also. This has been necessary to keeping our marriage viable and exciting. Kim has been a joint project and I have enjoyed helping her become fully confident in herself. 

You & Kim seem to have a great relationship, how do you manage to keep it so lively?

Embracing the evolving nature of our relationship and being willing to try anything new once in a while keeps things fresh and exciting.


What advice do you have for other spouses going through similar situations? 

Do your best to embrace the changes and work to incorporate both partner's needs and fantasies into your playtime. You may find that if you are not judgmental and are accepting instead, your relationship will be strengthened. Respectfulness is necessary for both parties - the wife must be respected and given time and understanding to work through to the new "normal". The CD spouse must be patient and understand that the change in how he/she feels about themselves does not change the basic sexuality of the wife. 





Thanks for reading GlamourBoutique.com's Q&A with Kim Rydick &  her wife

Interested in sharing your story ? Please contact me at kcantwellgb@gmail.com

Thursday, February 5, 2015

Becoming Jessica D'vine - The Journey of a Cross Dresser


"I still remember my first 1st grade crush...All I could think about were girls then. I just loved being around them.

It wasn't the type of feelings my friends had though. It was more of an admiration than attraction... I realize that now.

I'm more attracted to personalities than physical appearances. I can't stand the traditional male personality.

I had a lot of male and female friends by the time I was done with school but I always enjoyed spending time with the girl’s way more than the guys. I didn't understand it at the time. I was just trying to be the man that society told me I should be. I knew I wasn't gay so that just meant that I was supposed to find a girlfriend, get married, and have children. So that's what I did. I'll come back to that. 


I was a child of the 70's and 80's. Glam rock. I had long curly hair that touched my butt when I was 19. My close friend, Alicia, would invite me over and straighten my hair and practice hair styles on me. She always wanted to put makeup on me. I wanted her to but I never let her. We were at a small house party one night and I had a little too much to drink. My friend thought I was passed out and thought it would be funny to start putting makeup on me. I knew what she was doing but I let her believe I was passed out.
                   

When she was done, she "woke me up". I looked gorgeous! Wow. There are some very incriminating photos of me from that night. I wish I had the nerve to ask her for them.
 

When I was 19 years old I started going to clubs, I loved the city life of going out and having fun. I would wear tight shirts, skin tight cut off shorts with ass torn out. Although there was nothing masculine about me the women loved it anyway. I had charisma and a way of connecting with the ladies, which I didn't always understand.


I look back now and can't help but think, OMG, I was such a girl! I eventually met a woman when I was 22.  We were very open with each other and had a very kinky sex life. She would let me wear her spandex pants when I asked. I liked how my legs and butt looked in them and so did she. And she had these gorgeous heels. She told me to put them on once for her but made me take them off immediately. She said it bothered her that I had a very feminine appearance. 

We spent 13 years together, got married and had 2 children. Every time she was away for a weekend I would use it as an opportunity to dress in women's clothes, putting on make-up, fake nails, and heels. I loved the way I looked, and loved the way I felt. She still has no idea that I did this every time she was away. I have now been divorced for almost 10 years.


The biggest problem that I faced in accepting who I was, is that I believed my admiration for my feminine appearance was just a kinky sexual fetish. I felt as though there was something wrong with me, that I was some sort of pervert.

I struggled with accepting myself. I would go out, buy make-up and lingerie just to throw it all away out of disgust. I loved how I looked when I was dressed in feminine clothing, but feeling like a pervert was just too much for me to handle.
 


Last April, the urges came back. I had injured my shoulder at work and went on disability so I had a lot of free time on my hands. I decided to do some research on cross dressing. I realized I wasn't alone. Hours and hours of research. I eventually came across GlamourBoutique.com. I looked at everything and read every article associated with it. I decided that since I'm not getting any younger, now is the time to finally come out. I ordered some breast forms and a makeup kit.

 I trusted Glamour Boutique to be discreet, and they were. I was scared but I went and bought an outfit and heels. I practiced for hours with my makeup. I didn't want to look trashy for my first public appearance. 

 In May I went to my first Pride weekend in Edmonton, Alberta.  I found other transgender people on Facebook and I got the nerve to head out. I was very lucky to find a cross dresser who is married. She and her wife invited me to their home to help me get ready. I was conservative. I didn't feel comfortable wearing a dress in public. So jeans, a tank top and heels it was, and a wig course. I was happy with how I looked and my new friends brought me out to a club in Edmonton. There were about 20 of us, cross dressers, transgender, and drag queens. Everyone made me feel so comfortable. 

Only a few friends from Jef's world know about Jessica. I realized that I am gender fluid. I'm very comfortable in my male and female personas. I don't need to get dressed up to feel feminine. It's just there. My kids don't know and they don't need to. I'm their dad and that's how it will always be. I made my decisions when I was younger and it's my responsibility as a father to be that person to them. Maybe when they're both adults they may find out. If I ever feel it would benefit either of them knowing, I will tell them for sure. I would love to tell all my friends that I am gender fluid but I don't want my kids to find out.

So I still have my secret and that's fine. I don't feel like there's anything wrong with me anymore.
Everyone has their reasons for doing what they do. Some men feel like they should have been born a woman. Some men dress up for sexual reasons. Some men cross dress because they need to express their feminine side. I don't judge anyone for doing what they do.



There's nothing wrong with us. We are people that lead lives. We have jobs and families. We care about others. We have goals. I'm proud to be who I am, regardless of which gender I choose to represent myself as. 


I hope my story helps at least one person feel that it's okay to be who they are. You are beautiful."


Sincerely,
Jessica D'vine


Thank you Jessica for sharing your inspirational story with us, we too hope it will help others. If you would like to share your story with Glamour Boutique, please contact me at: kcantwellgb@gmail.com