Friday, April 17, 2015

Top Tips on how to Pass a Woman

If you are a cross dresser and want to go out in public, chances are you want to be seen as a lady, not a cross dresser. Of course this is not true in all cases, it is all personal preference. 

It really is the little things that matter when trying to be passable as a woman. Think about first impressions, one decides very quickly how they feel about that person. It is the same concept with being passable. 

The first impression you give off is just as important as the pretty face you have. Below are some tips in which we see as being the most important areas to focus on when trying to pass as a woman. 

No matter how feminine your face may be, you are gonna need makeup to pass as a woman. If you are just starting out, than I would suggest getting your makeup professionally done. You will learn a lot from actually watching someone apply makeup to your face. 

Watching videos and following makeup tutorials can be helpful as well but can also be overwhelming, because there is so much to know. Also everyone's face is different so watching someone apply makeup to your face is a really great way to become an expert, and you will be pleased with how fabulous and passable you look after. 

Tip: There are certain types of makeup, aka beard covers that are used in performing arts that great to help cover up any beard stubble. It's the little things that will help you become more passable. 

Natural looking hair  
Having beautiful hair that compliments your face is key to passing. You don't want to just find a long, flowing wig that you love and assume it's going to look natural on you. 

So what type of wig should you buy? This ultimately depends on your face shape, skin tone, and natural hair color, but to not overwhelm you all at once just start with a color that is close to your natural hair and eye brow color. 

If you are going with a blonde wig, than consider one with natural roots. Some wigs will be all one color which is not as natural as the ones with the darker roots or undertones/highlights throughout. For more help, check out find a wig for your face shape.

Tip: Don't go with a cheap wig, because you definitely get what you pay for when it comes to wigs!

In reality many women do dress in rather manly clothing, whether it be for comfort, fashion, or just a personal preference but for cross dressers it is important to dress in feminine clothes. 

I am sure I don't have to tell you this twice though, because one of the most exhilarating parts of cross dressing is picking out those sexy, flirty outfits.

Finding clothes that will cater to your more feminine qualities and choosing outfits that will cover your more masculine body attributes is key to passing in women's clothing. Stores like that cater to cross dressers is a great place to start, because the clothes are made to fit your male figure. 

Tip: Try to stay on top of current fashion trends, this will help you become more passable. 

Bye bye body hair 
This is very important to passing as a woman and is often overlooked. You can be done up from head to toe with your makeup, hair, and heels, but if you have any male body hair showing, it is a dead giveaway. 

Consider removing all hair from your face, arms, hands, legs, and feet. Make sure you get a clean close shave on your face. If you can't shave your legs then wear opaque pantyhose that are nice and thick to cover up your hair. 

Tip: The best way to remove hair from your hands and feet, besides laser treatment is waxing. If you shave your hands and feet and have dark hair, it will be very noticeable that you have shaved them.

Walk like a lady 
Now that you look like a lady you have to learn how to act like one. This is often overlooked and will be a dead giveaway in being passable. Start studying other women's mannerisms. Notice how they act, walk, and take note of their posture. 

There are many classes that help teach men the mannerism of a female but you can also do this by being observant. Try wearing heels as often as possible, this will help with your walk and your posture. 

Tip: Try shortening your stride, and loosen up a bit. Don't walk so stiff, try to have a nice flow when you walk.

LOOK like a lady 
 Back to the first impressions. Always make eye contact when talking to someone. Be confident and stand tall. Pay close attention to your body language.

Focus on how you are standing and sitting. When you sit make sure your legs are close together, preferably crossed. 

Tip: Set up a camera at home or better yet have a friend video tape you walking down the street. You will quickly pick up on what type of impression you give off to people. This will help you improve your confidence. 

I hope this helped some of you that are trying to pass as a woman. Just try to be patient and realize that nothing happens overnight. If you have any questions or suggestions, leave a comment below!

Need a recommendation for a good makeover artist, or maybe a class on mannerisms or voice control?? Leave a comment below and I will get back to you shortly!


  1. all of your comments were valid

    but i thought the last comment [about reviewing yourself on video] was far and away the most important

    thank you for sharing

    1. Thank you! Happy you found this article useful.

  2. I live in Niagara Falls, NY, and have been looking for a makeover artist in my area for quite some time with no results. I've been getting a lot of "we do not do makeover's for male to female look". I've been doing my makeup for quite some time now and have gone out in public as a woman during the day to do some shoe and clothes shopping. I try not to over do the makeup and the clothes I wear are average styles I see women wear. Jeans, 3" heels, a nice top, a jacket when needed. I seem to pass and fit in very well as no one has snickered or given me a strange look. I have had guys checking me out though on a few occasions (sneaking a peek when their wife is not looking). But I still would love to have a complete makeover by a professional artist. Suzanne

    1. You might try some of the chain cosmetic stores, specifically MAC stores. They are incredibly TG friendly (a lot of transgender women actually work there) and, many years ago, Ru Paul was even a paid spokesmodel for them. Sephora will also usually do TG makeovers as will many better quality, full-service salons.

      Check out any TG groups or other resources on Facebook, Twitter, Instragram, etc. Local specialty businesses frequently advertise in single interest groups on social media.

      You can also call the conceirge desks at most better quality hotels in your area, tell them you're going to be staying at their hotel in the near future, you're transgender and you wonder if they could suggest a salon in the vacinity that is TG friendly. (Trust me, you're not the first crossdresser the conceirges at the better hotels will have encountered.)

      You might check out any LGBT community newsletters or local gay newspapers or magazines. They will often have ads by local gay-owned and operated businesses who are more likely to be TG friendly. While you are checking those ads out, look for any announcements in the calendars for local TG support groups. Groups like the Imperial Court, the Academy and many others have local chapters all over the country and. often, are a great nexus for your local TG community. Even if you don't want to join the group, someone in it might be able to suggest local folks who specialize in TG makeovers.

      If you have a smart phone with a service like Siri (for Apple) or its counterparts on other phones, try asking for listings for TG-friendly salons near you. This also works with local gay bar and drag show listings. Most places have clubs that offer drag shows on weekends. Visiting them and simply asking one of the queens in the show might also yield the desired results. Chances are, one or more of the performers is in the beauty business in her day job and would be happy to help you.

      And don't be afraid to call straight salons and ask about makeovers. When you do, however, be sure to specify that you're not looking for a "drag" makeover. In many ways, drag makeup has more in common with traditional Kabuki theatrical makeup than with the "beauty" or fashion makeup that most women will wear in the real world. It's no wonder many salons would tell you they couldn't help, especially if they think you want to look like Lady Bunny when you walk out of the makeover.

      But, even if a salon can't help, before you end your call, make sure to ask, "is there some place you might suggest I call that could help me?" That "referral ask," as it's often called in sales, can often mean the difference between success and failure in any business.

      While some of these tips may not work in your area, the very strong likelihood some will and you will find exactly what you're looking for in a very short time.

      Gina Conners

    2. Hi Gina,

      Thank you for taking the time to provide this information to our reader from Niagara Falls! All of it is very useful and I think will be of great help to them.

  3. If you would like to email me, I would be happy to help with your search to find a make-up artist in the area that may be able to help.

  4. Thank you for all the very helpful tips. So are so right that it is not only important to look the part but if you don't feel the part no one is going to believe you. I haven't as yet made it outside but I continue to practice walking, talking and looking the part. When I do venture out it will be as the most poised and natural feeling of femininity that I can muster. Thanks again for all you do for all of us.

  5. So glad you found these tips useful, you are so welcome. I really appreciate your feedback. Best wishes.