Monday, July 20, 2015

4 Simple ways to Build your Confidence as a Cross Dresser

Whether you are new to cross dressing or have been doing it for years, it is important to be confident in your new found self. Even if you don't wish to be passable in public, you still want to feel comfortable in your own skin. When you see a really attractive woman you may be wondering what is it about them that is so appealing? This is almost always- confidence. Being confident is one of the most important parts of being a woman. 

Some of these tips to building your self-esteem and feminine confidence below take time but are so worth it in the end- you will feel like a new woman!

1. Find a Friend

Having a few friends, or even one will make a huge difference. They will give you the confidence to embrace your inner self. If you don't feel comfortable going on in public then meet some friends online- there are so many great online communities for cross dressers that you will definitely find someone you click with! Who knows maybe one time you two can meet and go out for lunch or drinks. Just having someone to talk to and understand your feelings will make you feel a lot more accepted and confident.

2. Don't Stop Learning! 

Let's face it, being a lady is not an easy job. Learning how to dress, do makeup, walk, and talk is not something that happens over night. Continue to build on your skills and you will feel more confident each and every day. Don't try to learn everything at once either. Choose one thing at a time, and try to master it before you move on to the next. Watch plenty of You tube videos, talk to other cross dressers, read blogs, look at pictures and tutorials and you will soon be the one who is teaching others how to be their best feminine self! 

3. Be a Risk Taker

Okay, this is an important one. Getting outside of your comfort zone is a quick and easy way to boost your confidence. Well, maybe I shouldn't say easy, because there is a reason you stay in your comfort zone right? Because its comfortable!! Start by writing down one thing a week that you want to overcome. Whether it's to walk down the street or around your neighborhood in femme, or maybe go to a club in a super tight dress and high heels- whatever you have been fantasizing about doing but just haven't been able to. Write down the reasons of what is stopping you from doing these things, and then take the risk and overcome one at a time. This will instantly boost your confidence and you will realize you can really do anything you put your mind to.

4.  Don't feel Guilty & Don't Give Up

Don't feel guilty for who you are. Most people are their own worst enemies. More importantly though, don't give up on yourself. Don't blame yourself for things that are out of your control- being hard on yourself is slowly destroying your confidence. Good news is, confidence is like a muscle that you can build and grow to be nice and strong. 

Continue to improve on your weaknesses and build on what's most important to you. When you find that you are putting yourself down, you have to stop yourself and turn it into a positive thought. This is another reason friends are great- because they can help you improve on this. 

These are just some tips to get you started but don't stop here- Visit our learning center for some really great articles on to become a woman. Leave any questions you may have below and I will be more than happy to answer!


  1. so much to think about , dreams one can only hope to take reality .

  2. Building confidence takes time and practice and the initiative to want to make it stronger! Keep working on it and it will become your reality